Have you ever felt internally pooled in two different directions? One part of you wants this, another part of you wants that and it seems impossible to bridge these two parts. For some people it often shows up as a struggle between a desire of success and a fear of failure. For others it can be an inner conflict between a need of earning money and a yearning for contribution, integrity or meaning.
The root of these struggles is in conflicting values. They contradict each other on some level. Sometimes it’s easy to spot it, sometimes you need to dig into your mental maps to realize where there is a conflict.
In October 2013 I joined a local tech startup to assist them with sales. Even though I’ve been hustling for my own business for about two years, it was still a completely new experience for me as I never worked in a sales position before. But I was eager to get sales experience. So when this opportunity came up, I quickly jumped into it.
It’s been only four months so far and it’s a part-time gig but I’ve learned quite a bit. Well, I was pretty lucky to lay my hands on an excellent sales course that this startup produced with Howard Olson as well as be mentored by CEO who has years of sales experience under his belt.
Had ambitions, sacrificed, achieved it all. Not happy. Still everything feels not quite right. New goals. New sacrifices. Still unhappy.
I used to believe life is all about achievements and sacrifices rather than happiness in the now. I was eager to sacrifice everything in order to accomplish more and then one day down the road to be happy. But years went by and this ‘one day’ was still somewhere far in the future.
Positive affirmations are often used as a way to better your life, attract success and boost confidence. Self-help books had taught us to focus on positive self-statements and reject any negativity that can creep in.
But I’m not a fan of affirmations because there is a little problem with it. They can do more harm than good, if repeated positive statements feel like a lie to you, if you deny problems rather solving them ir if you’re not proactive enough when it comes to your goals.
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